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Throughout my life, I have been through more heartache than most people have even thought of. I have watched as over half of my family died, and the other half fell apart. I learned so much from these horrible events, so I decided to share what I've learned!
1. Family isn't always by blood.
I had a pretty amazing childhood, even after: my grandma's death, my family's falling out, and the horrible problem that are panic attacks. After moping about for awhile in a casual "woe is me" style and after my family has somewhat made amends, I realized my life is still filled with happiness because of my 'adopted' family. My best friend is so close to me that it's hard to remember that we aren't actually twins.
2. Love, protect, and cherish those you love.
This one is a huge deal for me. I lost my role model when I was 8, and afterwards, instead of leaning on my parents, I was filled with a deep anger. After my mom was in her wreck, I realized how easily people can be taken from us. Cherish everyone. Even if it creeps people out, tell your loved ones how much you love them everyday. You never know when they will be taken from you. Make sure you've told them how much you love them.
3. Never let them leave or go to bed angry or hurt.
I know it means sucking up your pride, but I would rather apologize and work through things than leave someone to hurt and stew alone. As I mentioned before, you never know what will happen. I would rather have someone happy than upset and possibly distracted.
4. Love is unconditional and beautiful.
I can't even begin to count the arguments and anger I've felt towards my parents, but it's okay because in the end, they have always been there for me. Even when I was terrified of telling my parents something, it always worked out in the end because we love each other. My best memories with my parents are the ones that can't be bought or replace. Going on trips and spending time together are my happiest moments with everyone, friends included.
5. Showing your weaknesses doesn't make you weak.
The hardest thing I've ever told my parents is: "I've been panicking non-stop for 3 months straight, and I don't know how to stop it." At first, they didn't know how to handle it, but after telling them what I needed during those times, they gladly gave me hugs and hands when needed. My best friend does the same. I was terrified of people thinking I'm "crazy", but those who matter simply said, "okay...how can I help?". Showing your weaknesses can help you overcome and strengthen yourself...just make sure it's to the right people.
6. Pain will heal.
Things happen. Let them make you better not bitter. I know it feels like the end of the world, but trust me: you will survive. There is always someone who loves you. Lean on them. Don't dwell, and if you're going to cry, do it with someone. It's more healing.
7. If you have the opportunity, take it!
Do you have the opportunity to do something that absolutely terrifies you? Great, do it! You life is in your hands. My family are filled with so many regrets and what if's. They helped me realized that life isn't just handed to you. You have to grab life and face it head-on. Fears or no fears. It's all up to you.
